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Circuit Prayer Breakfast November 2015

On Saturday 7th November  we will be hosting the Circuit Prayer Breakfast between 8.30 and 10.00 a.m. We will start by enjoying Cereals, Porridge and Toast together. Then Prayer will be led by the Rev. Arthur Cowburn. This is part of the series of monthly prayer Breakfasts being hosted in turn by the Churches in the Southampton Circuit.


disagreeing without being disagreeable

The article below was Originally from Moira Sleight, Managing Editor of the Methodist Recorder and has been submitted by one of our Church Members as food for thought.

The tricky art of disagreeing without being disagreeable

Captain of Israel’s host was sung with great gusto in the Methodist Central Hall Westminster as last year’s Conference of the British Methodist Church came to an end with its traditional closing hymn. True, some felt that the hymn that had opened the proceedings had a first line more suited to our exhausted feelings — Charles Wesley’s “And are we yet alive?” — but for another year the conference’s work was done.

Meeting in conference is a very Methodist way of doing things. Wherever you find Methodists in the world — from Russia to Brazil, from Finland to Kenya and to South Africa — they hold a conference in order to confer together and find their way forward as disciples of Christ in today’s world.

In doing so they are following in a long tradition. The first Methodist Conference was held in 1744 under Methodism’s founder, John Wesley, when he brought together his assistants — both ordained ministers and itinerant lay preachers — to confer about “what to learn, how to teach and what to do”.

In his writings, Wesley referred to “Christian conference” as a means of grace and at its best it can be. Anyone who has been at a bad-tempered church council meeting or synod will know what it can be at its worst.

Wesley also sensibly once asked: “Do not you converse too long at a time? Is not an hour commonly enough? Would it not be well always to have a determinate end in view; and to pray before and after it?” Many people who have served on church committees at any level would say “amen” to that.

In recent years American Methodists have been exploring the idea of “holy conferencing”, which sets out principles to help Christians to be caring in their conversations, conferring and decision-making, especially when dealing with polarising subject matters.

It should be possible to disagree without being disagreeable, they say. In his Letter to the Ephesians, St Paul felt he needed to urge his readers: “So then, putting away falsehood, let all of us speak the truth to our neighbours, for we are members of one another . . . Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up.” Sadly, over the centuries the Churches of all denominations have not always shown that they have taken this advice to heart.

Holy conferencing does not mean that there is no place for impassioned speech. On the contrary, if people feel strongly about something, then it is natural that their passion will show. Within that passion, though, others should be respected and their viewpoints not misrepresented. In this soundbite age, when people are vilified for making comments that have been taken out of context, this is more important than ever.

The principles put much emphasis on real listening. Holy conferencing is not about convincing others that we are right. Instead it is about listening to others in such a way that we come to understand better why they hold their beliefs. That means proper listening — not just preparing what we are going to say next while we wait for them to finish. True listening is not a passive activity but a demanding one. It involves concentration and is hard work.

When we understand another person because we have listened to them properly — whether in a church, community or political setting — we are less likely to demonise them. We are thus better able to interact with them, coexist with them and, yes, co-operate with them, in spite of real differences.

Holy conferencing is a set of principles we should all be applying to the way we conduct ourselves not just in our church lives, but also in our working lives and personal lives too — and how about over the square from Methodist Central Hall in the Houses of Parliament?

Operation Christmas Child


Near Christmas the Samaritans Purse Charity distributes Shoe Boxes filled with Gifts to Children overseas mostly in the countries of Eastern Europe and Africa.

Many of the parents of these Children can hardly afford to feed and clothe there children, let alone buy them presents for Christmas, but thanks to your generosity thousands of these children have received a brightly wrapped shoebox filled with presents to make the festive season special.

Our church has been donating boxes since 2003 when 23 were given one year we managed to send  41 boxes.

Hats and Gloves that are suitable for inclusion in the boxes have been knitted by a member of the congragation and will be available in the Hall on Sundays.

If you are able to donate this year please bring your box along  on 1st or 8th November, and leave it on the table in the church hall.

The Charity requests a donation of £3 towards their costs in getting the boxes to there final destination. Leaflets are available giving more details about all this. The leaflets also contain labels so that the correct recipient of the boxes can be assured. They say things like Boy aged 2 to 5.

You could also look at the website below for more details.

Thank you.

Autumn Fayre

Spring Fayre : Photo by Ann

On Saturday 17th October we will be holding our Autumn Fayre. The Fayre will open at 10 a.m. and continue to 1. p.m. There will be an opportunity  to buy Cakes,  Plants, Books and Vegetables. We will also be holding a Gift stall.  There will  be  displays and sales by local Craftworkers of items as diverse as Woodwork and Homemade Cards.  Why not take the opportunity to start buying your Christmas Presents early this year. There will be Games to play, and a Raffle to take part in. Raffle prizes normally include Food Hampers. Refreshments will be available and will include Hotdogs and Bacon Baps and Tea and Coffee.  There will be an admission charge of 50p. The Picture above is  of our Spring Fayre last year. The Autumn Fayre is on a Similar Format, but it may be slightly colder.

Awayday at Netley

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On Saturday 3rd October  nineteen  people met at the Netley Methodist Church for our Awayday. The day was led by our Minister the Rev. Arthur Cowburn.  Netley Methodist Church is now used by a group called Pioneer as it was made redundant by the Southampton Circuit a few years ago.  We were pleased to have some former members from the Church with us who now attend Hedge End.  Those of us who had visited previously found it strange that it had chairs rather than the Pews now.

Our Study was focused on the Holy Spirit. Some of our Study Material was based on the  Alpha Course Material and some of it was created by Rev. Arthur Cowburn. We had many chances for discussion in large and small groups and it was interesting to hear many peoples different experiences  and Views of the Holy Spirit.

We Studied in several sessions having breaks in the Morning, for Lunch and in the Afternoon. We had several different sorts of cake in the Afternoon which had kindly been made by members of the congragation.

The day was not all spent in serious contemplation, as some of it was very lighthearted, and in the breaks and during Lunch we were able to spend some time enjoying the company of our fellow attendees.

Exploring Healing


On Saturday  10th October we will be holding our next Jammy Church. This event will take place between 10.30 and 12.30 p.m.

We shall be exploring Healing, Focusing on The Story of the Ten Lepers in Luke Chapter 17.

Jammy Church is our once monthly  activity session for children, their families and the young at heart.    There will be various activities and crafts to take part in and some food to eat.  You do not need to attend all the session; you could just pop in to see what we are up to.

More information can be found on the Jammy Church Facebook page.

The Picture above is from last Months Jammy Church on The Laws for Living.

2015 Harvest Celebrations


The Pictures above all on the theme of Harvest. Some were taken at Jammy Church on Saturday 12th September and some are from are Harvest Festival Service last week. We are grateful to all those people who bought food in. The Food has now been donated to the Southampton Basics Bank and St Dismas. Thank you to all those People who decorated the Church for Harvest and those that helped to make Jammy Church Possible.

Awayday 2015

On Saturday 3rd October we will be holding our Awayday. Members of the congregation and Friends of the Church  are invited to join together for a day of Study . Morning and afternoon refreshments will be provided, but participants are asked to provide their own packed lunch. The Cost for the Day is £5.00 per Participant.

We will be starting at 10.30 a.m.  and we expect to finish at approximately 4 p.m. We will be meeting at Netley Methodist Church. Which is located in New Road Netley, the Postcode is
SO31 5AA.

The day will be lead by our  Minister the Rev. Arthur Cowburn we will be exploring the “Holy Spirit”.

We look forward to a day of fellowship and fun – it will not all be serious!

Flyers giving  details of the day and how to book are now available in the Church..


Moses and Harvest Jammy

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On Saturday  12th September we will be holding our next Jammy Church. This event will take place between 10.30 and 12.30 p.m.

Jammy Church is our once monthly   activity session for children, their families and the young at heart.    There will be various activities and crafts to take part in and some food to eat.  You do not need to attend all the session; you could just pop in to see what we are up to.

Over the last couple of years Jammy Church has been working its way through the story of Moses. We will be concluding his story by Looking at the Laws for Living.

We shall also be celebrating the Harvest season you are welcome to bring  a donation of some food for this if you wish, but it is not compulsory.  As the food will not be given to the Charity until after the Harvest Festival Service on the 20th, it would be appreciated if you can only bring food that will last that long at room temperature. For details of where the food will go please see the Harvest Festival blog. You are of course welcome to attend the Harvest Service as well.

More information  on Jammy Church can be found on the Facebook page.

Harvest Festival 2015


On Sunday 20th September at 10.30 a.m. the Harvest Festival Service will be conducted by our Minister Rev. Arthur Cowburn.  Harvest Festival marks the end of the main Harvest season.  We give thanks to God for the crops that have been grown and celebrate the hard work involved in reaping them.

During the Service people will be given an opportunity to donate food to the Basics Bank and St Dismas, a Charity that helps the Homeless.

More information about the basics bank can be found at

if you wish to donate some  Food please bring some with you.  In the past the Charity has been given lots of Baked Beans so if you can another product would be appreciated.  Donating is not compulsory you are very welcome to join us for the service whether or not you donate.

Harvest Festival is a lovely community event, which can be enjoyed by families, friends and occasional visitors. There will be an invitation to Tea, coffee and biscuits after the service.